Other than choosing Jesus as your personal Savior, the single most important decision you will make in life is choosing your mate. To choose wisely, you will need Holy Spirit wisdom. It is better to remain single than to be married to the wrong person. Your decision not only affects you, but everyone close to you as well. There’s a lot to consider, but the number one essential element needed for a happy marriage... is God. If God is not a priority in their life, walk away.
Without having a Christ-centered home, your dreams of a blissful marriage are doomed. Sometimes you may meet someone that you're attracted to, but your feelings are not reciprocated. And because “the heart wants what the heart wants,” you keep trying to make them love you. But here is something important to remember. You can’t make grass grow . . . it just grows. So it is with love. You can’t force someone to love you, no matter how hard you try–either they do or they don’t. Sitting at home waiting for the phone to ring won’t bring happiness. Texting them all hours of the day and night, calling repeatedly, but receiving no response is pure torture. It’s painful to love someone when that love is not returned. The sting of rejection is painful. Facing reality is hard to do, but necessary for your own self-worth and emotional health. Stop and ask yourself, “Do I really want this person if they don’t want me?” No one is too busy to show they care.
If someone really loves you, they will want to spend time with you. They will do everything they can to make sure you know that you are loved. More importantly, they will not play games with your heart. If that isn’t happening, it’s time to do some real soul-searching and face the facts! The Bible talks about true love in 1 Corinthians 13. Read the whole chapter prayerfully, and you’ll begin to understand what real love is. That’s the only kind of love to seek. But before you are ready for a relationship, you need to have your heart right with God.
Whatever baggage you are carrying from past mistakes, give it to Jesus. You can’t make someone else happy if you are not truly joyful yourself.
Pray for Holy Spirit wisdom to choose someone who is unselfish, kind, thoughtful, and most of all–loves Jesus!
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2 Corinthians 6:14-15 NLT
14 Don’t team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness? 15 What harmony can there be between Christ and the devil[a]? How can a believer be a partner with an unbeliever?
a. 6:15 Greek Beliar; various other manuscripts render this proper name of the devil as Belian, Beliab, or Belial.
Proverbs 31:30 NLT
Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised.
Titus 1:7-9 NLT
7 A church leader[a] is a manager of God’s household, so he must live a blameless life. He must not be arrogant or quick-tempered; he must not be a heavy drinker,[b] violent, or dishonest with money.
8 Rather, he must enjoy having guests in his home, and he must love what is good. He must live wisely and be just. He must live a devout and disciplined life. 9 He must have a strong belief in the trustworthy message he was taught; then he will be able to encourage others with wholesome teaching and show those who oppose it where they are wrong.
1:7a Or An overseer, or A bishop.
1:7b Greek must not drink too much wine.
Proverbs 4:23 NLT
Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.
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